I’ll always remember the first Valentine’s Day after our twins were born. Sam and Leo were born in October so would have been 4 months old by 14th February. My mum had come to stay for a few days to help me out with the kids over half term. My social media feeds were filled with romantic pictures of flowers and date nights but we were dealing with nappy explosions and crying.
Once we’d eventually settled the three kids down (which was quite late in the evening) we snuck out to our village pub. It is a proper old man pub. I don’t think either of us had been there before. It has swirly patterned carpet and a fish tank. You can definitely buy pork scratchings there.
We were still a bit shell shocked from the relentless days with two very young babies and a 4 year old. Life was proving to be a roller coaster but one that we couldn’t get off. We had made a bit of an effort to look vaguely presentable which pretty much meant not wearing clothes with baby sick or poo on them. I remember trying to think what normal people talk about in the pub! We didn’t even drink very much. Rolando was driving and I knew that alcohol plus months of tiredness would make me instantly sleepy.
The pub closed quite early but we hadn’t been out for very long and we didn’t want to go home again. We were a bit giddy being out of the house after dark and without the kids. Instead we drove to the greasy burger van in the village and got our selves burgers and chips to eat in a car park. Hardly a romantic candle lit meal but it felt quiet special to spend a little bit of time to ourselves.
Valentine’s Day celebrations before the kids generally involved a meal in a nice restaurant and champagne. Last year we both took time off work and spent a day together. Even so I have fond memories of our burger van Valentine’s Day! It proved that romance isn’t dead it just looks very different these days. If you are with the person you love eating burger and chips in a car park can be the most romantic date night in the world.
Happy Valentine’s Day x