Being a mum of twins is completely fascinating. I remember the boys first making eye contact with each other and smiling. From very early days they would burble and giggle with each other. They will often say that they are each other’s best friends (in the moments when they aren’t squabbling), which melts my heart. I do wonder if some of the boys characteristics are twinisms, influenced by the fact that they are almost always together.
The boys definitely get a confidence boost knowing that their buddy is always has their back. Some of the boys naughtiest moments come from them egging each other on – taking it in turns to up the anti. They always have a willing audience that finds throwing food or making farting noises totally hilarious.
Here’s a little round up of Sam and Leo’s twin traits – things that they do more because they are twins.
No sense of personal space
I have a theory that this stems from being squished up in the womb together. The boys are always sitting, jumping and lying on top of each other. A lot of the time the person getting squished is giggling rather than upset (although it does get out of hand at times). On more than one occasion they have climbed into each others cots to sleep snuggled up together. This lack of regard for person space extends to other people as well. They try and sneak behind me if I’m sitting on the sofa and climb onto my shoulders or squeeze behind my back. They are all over their big sister too. If we are not carefully they will be those slightly creepy adults who stand just a bit too close when they are talking to you.
Obsessed with their names
I know it is quite common for kids to tell people their names. The boys take this to another level. They point to each other and say I’m Sam he’s Leo (and vice versa) all day, every day. They repeat this to pretty much anyone who makes eye contact with them. I’ve heard the boys introduce themselves to parrots, rabbits, teddies, even gingerbread men. I think it stems from them not wanting people to get them mixed up and a need to assert their individuality.
My daughter was always the quiet child who got toys stolen from her at mother and baby groups. The boys are having none of it. They have been competing for and fighting over toys on a daily basis all of their lives. They will defend their toys from the biggest most determined child. Even from a young age they were quite feisty and wouldn’t flinch at fending off a preschooler. I have to really keep an eye on them at baby groups to make sure that they are not too rough in their toy preservation efforts. Maybe this determination will stand them in good stead later in life if they don’t kill each other over fighting over a Lego man first.
Can sleep through practically anything
When the boys were tiny they would wake each other up with their crying. Over time they have developed the knack of sleeping through each others noise. They will get woken up by sudden noises like accidentally dropping something or a door slamming. However I’m often surprised how Leo will carry on sleeping with a howling Sam right next to him (and vice versa).
Sadly this ability does not extend to the mornings. The twin who wakes up first often deliberately wakes his brother up by banging on the side of his cot determined that if he is awake everyone else should be.
Do you have twins and do they have any particular twin traits? Are these things common to your (non twin) children?